The general idea of this list is to provide lots of different approaches to feeling better. All of these books provide inspiration and creative ways to enhance one’s life. They all provide ideas to talk about.

Diamond, Susan Arnsberg. Helping Children of Divorce. (re. 2001) New York:Schocken Books.

Emery, Robert E., The Truth About Children and Divorce (2004) London: Penguin Books.

Emery, Robert E., Renegotiating Family Relationships: Divorce, Child Custody andMediation (1994) New York: Guilford Press.

Emery. Robert E,. Marriage, Divorce and Children's Adjustment. (1988) Newbury Park, CA: Sage Publications.

Fagerstrom Karen, Diana A. Wilde, Peggy Thompson, Rodney Nurse, Milton Kalish,Nancy J. Ross, & Thomas Wolfrum, Divorce: A Problem to be Solved. Not a Battle to be Fought. (1997) Orinda, CA, Brookwood Publishing.

Fisher R., and W. Ury. Getting To Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. (1983)New           York: Penguin Books

Fouquet, C., Stephen. Divorced Dads (1996) Minneapolis, Fairview Press.

Garrity. Caria B. & Bans. Mitchell A., Caught in the Middle. (1994) New York: Macmillan Publishing.

Hendrix, Harville. Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples (Revised 2008) New York: Holt Paperbacks

Hetherington, E.M. (1989). Coping with family transitions: Winners, losers and survivors. Child Development, 60.1-14.

Hetherington, E.M., Kelly, J. For Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered. (2002) New York: W.W. Norton & Co.

Hembree-Kigin, Toni L. and Boldiford McNeil, Cheryl, Parent-Child Interaction Therapy:A Step-by-Step Guide for Clinicians. (1995) New York and London: Plenum Press.

Johnson, Sue. Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. (2008) New York: Little, Brown & Company

Johnston, J. R., and V. Roseby. In the Name of the Child. (1997) New York: Free Press.

Johnston, Janet R., K. Breunig, C. Gamty and M. Bans. Through The Eves of Children:Healing Stories for the Children of Divorce. (1997) New York, Free Press.

Marquardt, Elizabeth, Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce (2005) New York: Crown Publishers

Mason, M. A., The Custody Wars. (1999) New York: Basic Books.

McWade, Micki. Getting Up, Getting Over, Getting On: A Twelve Step Guide to Divorce Recovery. (2011) second edition. Author House

McWade, Micki. Daily Meditations for Surviving a Breakup, Separation or Divorce. (2011) second edition. Author House

Millon, T., The Millon Inventories. (1997) New York: Guilford.

Nurse, A. Rodney & Peggy Thompson. "Collaborative Divorce: A Humane, Interdisciplinary Approach." In L. Vandecreek (Ed.), Innovations in Clinical Practice: A Source Book. (2000) Vol. 18, Sarasota, Fl: Professional Resource Press.

Nurse, A. Rodney & Peggy Thompson.  "Collaborative Divorce: A New, Interdisciplinary Approach." In American Journal of Family Law. (1999) Vol.13, 226-234.

Pruett, Kyle D., Me. Myself and L How Children Build Their Sense of Self: 18 to 36 Months. (1999) Goodard Press, Inc.

Tannen, Deborah. You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation. (1990) NY: Ballantine Books.

Tannen, Deborah. The Argument Culture: Stopping America's War of Words. (1999) NY: Ballantine Books.

Vaughan, Diane. Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships (1986) New York: Vintage Books.

Walsh, Froma. Strengthening Family Resilience. (1998) New York: Guilford Press.

BOOKS AND VIDEOS FOR PARENTS

Adler, R., Sharing the Child: How to Resolve Custody Problems and Get On With Your Life. (1998)

Blau, M., Families Apart. (1994) New York: William Morrow and Company, Inc.

Braver S. & O’Connell, D., Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths, (1998) Braver S. & O’Connell, D. (1998) New York: Putnam.

Einstein E., & Albert, L. Strengthening Your Stepfamily, (1986) Circle Pines, MN: American Guidance Service.

Gold, L., Between Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce. (1992)

Hart, Archibald D., Helping Children Survive Divorce: What to Expect, How to Help.

Heegaard, Marge. When a Parent Marries Again, Drawing Out Feelings (1992)Minneapolis, MN: Woodland Press.

Heegaard, Marge. When Mom and Dad Separate Drawing Out Feelings (1992)Minneapolis, MN: Woodland Press.

Hickey E. & Dalton, E. (1994) Healing Hearts: Helping Children and Adults Recover From Divorce (1996) Carson City, NV: Gold Leaf Press.

Kline, K. & Pew, S. For the Sake of Your Children: How to Share Your Children with Your Ex-Spouse in Spite of Your Anger (1992) Rocklin, CA: Prima Publishing.

Lyster, M., Child Custody: Building Parenting Agreements that Work (1996) Berkeley, CA: Nolo Press.

Major, Jayne A., Creating a Successful Parenting Plan: A step by step guide for the care of children of divided families. (1994) New York: Harper Perennial. Suggestions for making workable parenting arrangements.

Marston, S., The Divorced Parent. (1994) New York: William Morrow and Co.

Muklewicz, C., Kids First: Children Coping with Divorce and Family Conflict (1997) Park City, UT: Family Development Resources.

Neuman, Gary. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way (1998) New York: Random House. Excellent book on helping children through divorce. Practical suggestions and developmental information included.

Newman, George, 101 Ways to be a Long-Distance Super-Dad or -Mom Too! (1996) Tucson AZ: Blossom Valley Press.

Oddenino, M., Putting Kids First: Walking Away from a Marriage without Walking Over the Kids, (1995) Salt Lake City, UT: Family Connections Publishing.

Ricci, I., Mom’s House, Dad’s House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who are Separated, Divorced or Remarried. (1997) New York: Fireside.

Teyber, Edward, Helping Children Cope with Divorce. (2001) Jossey-Bass.

Thomas, S., Parents are Forever: A Step-by-Step Guide to Becoming Successful Co-Parents After Divorce. Longmont, CO: Springboard Publications.

Warshak, R. (1992) The Custody Revolution: the Father Factor and the Motherhood Mystique. (1995)  New York: Posieden Press.

Whitman, Jeffrey P., Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody With an Ex Who Drives You Crazy. (2001) Berkeley.

SUGGESTED READING FOR CHILDREN

Berman,Claire,  What Am I Doing in a Stepfamilv? (1982) Syracuse, NY: Lyle Stuart, Inc.

Blume, Judy,  It's Not the End of the World. (1972) Scarsdale. NY: Bradbury Press.

Boegehold, Betty, Daddy Doesn't Live Here Anymore. (1985) Chicago, IL: Goldencraft.

Bolick. Nancy O'Keefe, How to Survive Your Parent's Divorce. (1994) New York:Franklin Watts.

Brown, L K. & Brown, M.,  Dinosaur's Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families. (1986) Boston: Joy Street Books/Little Brown.

Cleary. Beverly, Dear Mr. Henshaw. (1983) New York: Morrow Publishing.

Danzinger, P., The Divorce Express. NY: Dell.

Gardner, R. A., The Boys and Girls Book About Divorce. (1982) New York:Bantam Books.

Girard, Linda Walvoord, At Daddy's on Saturdays. (1987) Morton Grove, IL: Albert Whitman & Co.

Johnston, J., Brevnig, K., et al, Through The Eyes of Children. (1997) NY: Free Press.

Lansky, V. It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read Together Book for Parents and Young Children During Divorce. (1998) Minnetonka, MN: Book Peddlers.

Kimball, G., Kid's Advice to Kids: How to Survive Your Parents' Divorce. (1994) Chico, CA: Equality Press.

Krementz, Jill, How It Feels When Parents Divorce. (1998) New York: Alfred A. Knopf.

Nightingale, L. Yorba Linda, My Parents Still Love Me Even Though They're Getting Divorced. (1997) CA: Nightingale Rose Publications.

BOOKS FOR INSPIRATION AND MOVING ON

Ahrons, Constance, Ph.D. The Good Divorce: Keeping your family together when your marriage comes apart. (1994) New York: Harper Perennial. A classic on divorce, explaining possible options in relationship with ex.

Albom, Mitch. Tuesdays with Morrie. (1997) New York: Doubleday. A series of interviews with a man who is dying. Great teachings on how to live life.

Bach, Richard.  Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah. (1977) New York: Dell. Lessons on how we create our own reality and choices we have.

Ban Breathnach, Sarah. Simple Abundance: A Day Book of Comfort and Joy. (1995) New York:  Warner Books. A daily reading and reminder that there’s a lot to be grateful for.

Beattie, Melody. The Language of Letting Go. (1990) New York: Harper Collins. An excellent daily reading on letting go of others and focusing on ourselves.

Beattie, Melody. Codependent No More. (1996) (2nd Ed.). New York: Hazelden Education. A definition of codependency and suggestions on how to change old ways.

Buscaglia, Leo F. Loving Each Other: The Challenge of Human Relationships. (1990) New York: Fawcett Books.

Carlson, Richard. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and It’s All Small Stuff. (1997) New York: Hyperion.

Carlson, Richard. *Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff at Work: Simple Ways to Minimize Stress and Conflict While Bringing Out the Best in Yourself and Others. (1998) New York: Hyperion.

Campbell, Joseph, Bill Moyers. The Power of the Myth.  (1991) New York: Bantam Books. Description of archetypes and how they apply to life at various times.

Chopra, Deepak. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams. (1994) San Rafael: New World Library. Interesting way to bring more abundance into our lives. Each law can be a discussion topic.

Clapp, Genevieve. Divorce and New Beginnings. (2000) New York: John Wiley & Sons. Excellent overview of divorce and all the stages we live through.

Covey, Stephen R. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. (1990) New York: Fireside Books, Simon and Schuster. A classic on how to make most of everyday while enhancing relationships. Each habit can be a discussion topic.

Dass, Ram. Still Here: Embracing Aging, Changing and Dying. (2000) New York: Riverhead Books. Author has had catastrophic stroke and makes the most of what he has.

Fisher, Bruce  Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends (7th Ed.) (1996) San Louis Obispo: Impact Publishers. This book is used by many Catholic groups and has positive approach to getting through divorce.

Ford, Debbie Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life. (2001)San Francisco: Harper.

Frankl, Viktor E. Man’s Search for Meaning (1959) New York: Simon and Schuster. True story of survival and growth while in a Nazi concentration camp.

Hahn, Thich Nhat. Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life. (1991) New York: Bantam. Simple, gentle, wise readings.

Hay, Louise. You Can Heal Your Life. (1984) Santa Monica, CA: Hay House. A study on how our emotions affect our health.

Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth M.D. On Death and Dying. (1969) New York: Macmillan. Originally written to explain stages of preparation for death, but now used to understand grief of any kind. Divorce creates a death of a relationship and will be mourned like  deaths of significant family members.

McWade, Micki.  Getting Up, Getting Over, Getting On: A Twelve Step Guide to Divorce Recovery. (1999) Beverly Hills: Champion Press. Explanation of how the Twelve Steps and slogans apply to divorce. Empowering focus.

McWade, Micki, Daily Meditations for Surviving a Breakup, Separation or Divorce. (2002) Fox Point Wisconsin: Champion Press. Daily readings to help the reader through this type of adjustment. 

Robbins, Anthony. Personal Power II: The Driving Force. (1996) Robbins Research International, Inc.. Motivational material for moving on.

Shimberg, Elaine F. Blending Families. (1999) New York: Berkley Books. Information on how to raise a stepfamily.

Tannen, Deborah. You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation. (1990) New York: William Morrow & Co. Outlines communication differences and difficulties between men and women.

Trafford, Abigail. Crazy Time. (1992) New York: Harper Perennial. Great description of the difficult days of early separation. Helps one feel normal.

Wallerstein, Judith S., Lewis, J. M., Blakeslee, S., The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. (2000) New York: Hyperion. Report on 25 years of research on the effects of  divorce on children.

Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever You Go There You Are Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. (1994) New York: Hyperion. Reminds us to be conscious of our life on a daily basis.